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Find an effective way to discipline children with special needs is a tricky business. So difficult, in fact, that some parents with special needs to abandon them completely.

This week with special needs in life, aurorabunny, and mom to a 3-year-old Prodi, whose autism, and discusses why it believes it is a kind of discipline is important, not only for her son and his experiences of life in the future, but for children with special needs and the other well.

Say yes for Discipline Inspection: people with special needs living

Of aurorabunny

When you have a child with special needs, there is nothing worse than those working in the non-educated people who believe that any disability or condition is most likely really just a lack of discipline. We all know this kind of thinking is completely false, and that the lack of discipline certainly do not cause autism, add, or any other type of disability. That said, I personally noticed that for some reason, parents of children with disabilities are less likely to discipline as often (or at all), and maybe he fueled uninformed opinion to which I referred above. For this reason (and other reasons!), And I think it is very important for us, the kiddos with special needs to remember that the discipline and rules that are no less important for our children as it is for children neurotypical.

In the past year has turned more and more parents and children who suffer from autism, I was a little surprised and saddened by how I saw the whole "no discipline" routine. Do not get me wrong here, I'm not saying that these parents do not discipline the way I think they should, or that they are doing wrong; they are not doing it at all. I have seen a very large number of screams and slaps, and bites, and kicks that are just met with disgruntled sighs and no more.

As I chatted with other parents of children on the autism spectrum, I've got multiple interpretations of what I saw. Some mothers told me they are now more reluctant to discipline their children about others who know that the child has autism, which I understand. I have been quite deal with the "Do not you think you are a little hard for him? And autism, after all ..." Spiel before, even from within the family. Other mothers have told me that their child is unable to understand the sentence, or that discipline in the implementation because they do not work or seems to be useless. This is the logic which I find bothers me more. In addition to the fact that a total lack of discipline our children so that groups fail later in life, and I think it sends the underlying message: We have low expectations of this kind, you are what you can achieve that I'm not even going to bother putting any rules to follow.

To know what works and what does not fit for children on the spectrum and with other special needs can be tricky, and the rules may take a great deal of enforcement before they actually stick. I know that we must "think outside the box" quite a bit when dealing with Prodi and his actions. We do not vouching in our house, and running out of time for children like my son, who prefers to be left alone and not be forced to interact and really comes from more than a reward of punishment. But the immediate reinforcements, such as any dessert or television, and has been proved to work very well for us. When all else fails, a large number of fat my husband or me really works like a charm. I've yet to meet a child who can not ultimately understand what "no" means, when people say that their child is unable to know the meaning of the word, I admit that I find myself rolling my eyes.

Only a few months ago we were having a mini playdate at my house with another mother and her son, who also has autism. During a fight game, and I saw Prodi reached his hand again to be distributed to a strong boost to this small boy who was playing in was part of a hoarder, and began walking on his way to intervene when something funny happened. Hand is still a bit in the air, I can see the wheels turning in his brain as he thought about what he was preparing to do. He put his hand down and walked away to find another game. You better believe I was proud of. I admit that there is a chance my son did not really understand why we are not supposed to reach the people? Sure. I do not want to leave the beaten people in the next few years while he was trying to figure this? In any case. The boy does not understand what I mean, now, and that's good enough for me.

We still have horrible days behavioral, and revolutions of public anger, and a lot of days when you wonder why even bother to talk. But we will never give up on the front discipline. My son may have autism, but he still has a lot of potential, and all I intend to continue to expect great things from him, in the management and conduct in all aspects of his life.

How do you deal with discipline with children with special needs you?